Are you a robot? Nope, Didn’t think so! So why are you acting like one and pretending you don’t have any emotions?
We have allowed ourselves to be contained by societies standards of what is normal, what is good, what is bad, what is right, what is wrong, judgement and expectations from others and ourselves (based off what others will think) for far too long… Fuck it all, The world is waking up my darling. What is normal anyway?
When I travel solo, I sometimes feel incredibly sad and last year I even had a full on panic attack before I boarded a 24 hour flight to London and nearly canned the trip at the boarding gate. I have felt selfish about this before when I know how many people would love to be in my position of travelling the world and exploring the new. Travelling forces you into unknown situations and pushes you out of your comfort zone which is an incredible opportunity to see where are you showing up in your life.
Instead of brushing over this like I have in the past, I’ve spent the past year diving deep into why I feel the way I do and challenging myself on everything. When a feeling of sadness would wash over me, I would previously dismiss it or go into a massive funk and shut everyone off to be by myself and throw myself a pity party. Now I welcome in the opportunity to question what is really going on, I peel back the layers and work to the very core. Moments like these are an incredible gift to face off with yourself and grow. It still surprises me how something as small as the tone in someones voice can trigger me into checking into a library of bullshit stories I have placed in my own way.
Everyone has stories, Fake AF stories that you let your ego make up to keep you small, hold you back from shining your light and being the exceptional fucking human that you are.
What are some of my stories you ask? Okay, Let me get vulnerable and share them out onto the internet in the hope that they will resonate with one of you and inspire you to change your perspective and be kind to yourself.
I was in a car accident when I was sixteen where I was thrown through the windscreen and had my face ripped apart by the glass shattering. The scars have healed well but ever since then I have had break outs and that has made me feel ugly.
I’m 33 (34 in November) still single and most of my friends are married and are having kids which sometimes makes me feel really left out, lonely and like I must be unlovable.
Because I am riding solo, I have thrown myself into my work over the years and managed to stack on an extra 15 – 20 kilos which is a fun mix of stress, emotional eating, so tired I can’t be bothered to cook and hiding myself to reinforce the unlovable story.
So what do I choose to do with these ridiculous road blocks that I have placed in front of me – Kick them the fuck down, Focus on what an amazing human I am and commit to daily aligned action in my vision.
How do you overcome your stories though? I acknowledge mine and replace them with a positive, life affirming story like these;
Every morning I stand in front of the mirror naked and appreciate ME – I hated the idea of this when I first started doing it, I remember thinking, fuck this shit. Now it makes me smile and this may sound corny but I don’t care – I truly love myself and get to be grateful every single day. Grateful for my strong body that lets me do anything I want – I have legs to run and dance, hands to hold and create, arms to carry and hug, beautiful eyes to connect with. I invite you to spend ten minutes a day in front of the mirror acknowledging everything you love about yourself and the parts that you don’t love yet – Find the positive in them because they are there and I promise the more positive attention you give them, the more love you will have for yourself.
I’m single and I still have the exciting part of meeting the love of my life to come and all the fun people I get to know in between. I can travel the world and not have to answer to anyone or check if I can do something (Except with Mum, Yes, I will text you on arrival everywhere, Love you). I can sleep anywhere, anytime – I hear this is pretty cool from my friends with kids.
I choose to put myself first and fuel my body with nutritious, high vibrational food that makes me feel awesome. I get to be in the outdoors and spend time being active, doing things that I love and moving my body every day. I also get to have the occasional burger and expresso martini or five if I want to and not feel guilty.
What stories are holding you back? I’d love to hear in the comments below or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d prefer to keep it private.
Love, Dana x